Illusions & Projections

Illusions are basically referring to experience within the matrix of the relative. Like time, it cannot be measured without space and vice versa. Yet as the definition of relative clearly states; the relative is the contrary of the absolute. Absolute means perfect, complete or pure; hence the relative is polluted and dirty. It is something or some value or experience which is only considered or exists in comparison to something else. In this sense it has no inner or intrinsic value. It is done for external reasons versus for its own sake, en esse. In this sense it is a cloned reality or an image, not the real thing. The relative is always dependent on something else for its own value. The synonym of relative is dependent and in this sense it is the opposite of the real individual. It is conditioned and thus like a chameleon changes given the conditions it is in and thus it is not unconditional. In this sense it is always subject to fear or bribery; compromised. In terms of a personality we refer to it as false for it is one face in front of this person and the opposite in front of the other. It contradicts itself. In this sense of its definition as being proportionate; it is what we refer to as the shadow or the resonance of the bright side.

I always perceive the other relative to the state I am in. In this sense when not at-one with my shadow I am the proportion. I am caught in a matrix of relativity which is referred to below as the world or desert of illusions. If I am too hot I will experience the other as too cold. If I am full I will experience the glass as half empty while if am down I will see everything as too big for me (the glass is half full). I have no way of ever knowing what the glass is if I’m caught in resistance and thus in relativity. That is as long as I generate a shadow (resist). Only when I’m free of resistance and thus between too much and too little, when I contain the shadow, can I experience the glass beyond relativity.

Here what I experience is that I am the glass. The matrix of relativity veils me from a deeper reality where I am one with the glass. Space and time is here traded for non-locality which is referred to as the concept of eternal and spiritual. In this sense when we touch the shadow we connect to absolute silence and truth and unconditional love. We see the pain in the other for we have also seen it in us. This approach vis-à-vis the relative materialistic approach to medicine was depicted in a dream as: “At the end of the dream started to feel incredible love for this/these sick/blind people: agape love.” The proxy reality of the illusion veils us from this deeper reality which we can only know first handedly.

There's always 2

Everything has two sides; a positive and a negative side. If you decide to pursue the positive soon you will have to confront the negative, which you have always avoided. If the positive is there, the negative is also there. If you ignore this your eyes are shut.

Glued in Contradiction

The real problem is not keeping the other honest, but self deception. We are unaware of the contradiction we are glued in. As long as we remain split in below mentioned two poles/persons, we tend to be caught in contradictions yet remain unaware of this. In terms of above mentioned message one side of us thinks he is curious and inquisitive while he hides the side and opposite that is terribly closed minded. What makes it difficult to recognize the contradiction we are caught in is that the side we least want to be (the shadow), which we yet also are, is projected on the other. In other words the inner contradiction or conflict is played out and experienced via the other. A woman tells her daughter: “you can’t think that I’m the kind of mother which looks on and enjoys the daughter’s pain…” Another older woman who feels terribly insecure and afraid to be at home alone (when her husband is abroad) tells her son upon suggesting that her grandson sleep over by her: “I don’t want him to think he has to babysit me.” This is a projection and basically a side of her is saying this to herself. Her rejected more secure and self-confident side is basically telling herself this and in somewhat sarcastic terms. The first woman is basically accusing herself she is looking on and doing nothing to help her daughter.

Another man goes on and on about his businesses and money and how important it is for him to have his financial affairs in place etc, and at that point says: “I hope you’re not thinking I am materialistic”. In both cases this is the shadow basically replying and responding to the dominant opposite side or self which has gone into somewhat extreme degrees. Here what is really happening is that one side is basically calling/accusing the other of being a materialist, a sadist and a ‘baby’. Yet this inner contradiction or debate is not caught within but another is blamed for “seeing” or thinking he is a materialist…

In this sense the way we feel the other is thinking about us is basically the way we are thinking of our self. For instance when someone projects anger onto the other it can be construed as a part of us which is looking onto the deceiver in us, so to speak, is angry at our self or the deceiver. There’s always a part of us looking onto ourselves. We get this often for instance when we feel others envy us or are jealous of us; or also when we feel others hate us because we are so great, successful etc. This is also a side of us which is at odds with ‘the monster’ (the inflated side) and is bent on bringing him down. This is of course the dynamic underlying conflicts and fights. I will fight the projection in the other. Yet we cannot kill the shadow. Full excising of the shadow leads to our own demise.

If we could become aware of the projection and thus re-take it we would be able to enter into an inner debate and dialog which could eventually lead to a compromise of sorts. The materialistic side would be cross fertilized by the more idealistic or social side and in that form the materialistic penchant could be countered and a form of balance or synergy could ensue. The same goes for the woman suffering from great insecurity. Yet when the other is blamed for feeling (actually us feeling) materialistic: 1. we can remain in denial of the extent of our one sidedness and 2. We don’t own and accept the side that the dominant person/pole in us is rejecting and fighting in the other.

The big problem is that this part of us that is at odds with the dominant side returns in different forms to terrorize and boycott the plans of the deceiver in us. This becomes the root of self-sabotage, disease and accidents in our life. In the life of the great physicist Wolfgang Pauli, the “demon” or shadow would return in his dreams as a figure strongly at odds with Pauli’s physics and which would be setting places afire which would be associated with this physics. But also outside of his dreams a term was coined for the weird accidents which would occur when Pauli would come around physics labs and such sort places. The term was the Pauli-effect. It is necessary to unite in one sole existence.

From Within

Today in a workshop I gave to a group of teachers, a teacher/psychologist asked me how can you get to change a student if the student totally denies that she needs any change or that she has to work on anything. The more they tried to convince the student of her error and problem the more the student started to say that they were trying to talk a problem onto her while there was none.

I more or less told her that my method works among others with dreams. In general it is based on tapping the inner potential (feedback) of the person. In dreams we find the natural feedback of the person toward themselves. Our best chance for change is to tap this natural source of feedback of a person toward themselves. In order to do this as a change agent or therapist we have to be in the now to tap what is going on here and now, and thus out of any preconceived notions or expectations. We are simply the translator of the feedback of the person toward themselves, which can come from a dream or other sources. The unconscious is simply the flow from which we tap. Real teaching is unleashing inner guidance. This is the most plausible form of working with change. It is the person, or a part of the person him/her self, which is telling him/her self what needs change. In this sense we must be attuned to the natural flow going on in and around us. Our role is to translate and mediate the messages. Not to tell the person what to do. Therefore there's a very thin line between facilitating and enslaving. Ours is not the role of judging and telling the other what to do. Change imposed from without is manipulation.