Behavioral Problems

Training: Managing Behavioral Problems

Next week 25/26 June 08 I will be giving a training to the teachers of a school sector (EPB) on Aruba on: "Managing Behavioral Problems". In general at schools of Aruba we have been witnessing increasing behavior problems, like violent behavior etc in schools. This school sector, which the majority of the young people on Aruba attent after elementary school, and to which the training will be delivered, stands out by far as having the most serious behavioral problems on the island. It has been experiencing increasingly more serious behavioral problems under students and between students and teachers.

Look Soldier Look...Inwards

Look teacher look...
Inwards
and thy battle shall be resolved

Look soldier look...
Inwards
And thy battle shall be resolved

Every Step Forward was a Step Backward Encountering Themselves

Every step they took,

thinking that they were approaching the(ir) truth,

was a step backward encountering themselves.

Chain Reaction

Feelings (sentiments) are really an illusion. If there is no thought there is no feeling. What we think has consequences for what we feel. And what we feel is inevitably translated to actions and behavior. If we change what we think automatically feeling also changes.

Choice and Thinking

We find ourselves constantly doing what we don’t want to do. 

I say something which I regret later. We are driven and controlled by external and alien forces. 

But we have a choice. For instance to not let one silly traffic incident spoil the rest of our day. 

We even have a choice as to what we think. 

We can change what we think. 

We can become aware that what we are thinking about someone (which is classically a projection) is not true. And hence we can choose to think something else. 

We can choose to not think. 

(Free) Choice and will predate and fore-go thinking. 

They operate thinking and thus feeling. The work of touching the shadow and re-taking projections is actually not thinking anymore. 

It is consciousness.

Illusions & Projections

Illusions are basically referring to experience within the matrix of the relative. Like time, it cannot be measured without space and vice versa. Yet as the definition of relative clearly states; the relative is the contrary of the absolute. Absolute means perfect, complete or pure; hence the relative is polluted and dirty. It is something or some value or experience which is only considered or exists in comparison to something else. In this sense it has no inner or intrinsic value. It is done for external reasons versus for its own sake, en esse. In this sense it is a cloned reality or an image, not the real thing. The relative is always dependent on something else for its own value. The synonym of relative is dependent and in this sense it is the opposite of the real individual. It is conditioned and thus like a chameleon changes given the conditions it is in and thus it is not unconditional. In this sense it is always subject to fear or bribery; compromised. In terms of a personality we refer to it as false for it is one face in front of this person and the opposite in front of the other. It contradicts itself. In this sense of its definition as being proportionate; it is what we refer to as the shadow or the resonance of the bright side.

I always perceive the other relative to the state I am in. In this sense when not at-one with my shadow I am the proportion. I am caught in a matrix of relativity which is referred to below as the world or desert of illusions. If I am too hot I will experience the other as too cold. If I am full I will experience the glass as half empty while if am down I will see everything as too big for me (the glass is half full). I have no way of ever knowing what the glass is if I’m caught in resistance and thus in relativity. That is as long as I generate a shadow (resist). Only when I’m free of resistance and thus between too much and too little, when I contain the shadow, can I experience the glass beyond relativity.

Here what I experience is that I am the glass. The matrix of relativity veils me from a deeper reality where I am one with the glass. Space and time is here traded for non-locality which is referred to as the concept of eternal and spiritual. In this sense when we touch the shadow we connect to absolute silence and truth and unconditional love. We see the pain in the other for we have also seen it in us. This approach vis-à-vis the relative materialistic approach to medicine was depicted in a dream as: “At the end of the dream started to feel incredible love for this/these sick/blind people: agape love.” The proxy reality of the illusion veils us from this deeper reality which we can only know first handedly.

There's always 2

Everything has two sides; a positive and a negative side. If you decide to pursue the positive soon you will have to confront the negative, which you have always avoided. If the positive is there, the negative is also there. If you ignore this your eyes are shut.